its a great step
to Redemption"
At some point in life,we strive to always be loved in return by those we strongly love and value.But what do we Get in return from them? we get just the opposite of what we feel for them and what baffles me most is despite our cutting them off our lives,we still find out that there's just this big space they still occupy in our heart that we cant just get over them..
You have tried all you can to just get over them but instead they just keep coming strong in your heart. And that's because your trying wasn't good enough.
Good news is, After you go through this tips,you can comeback to thank ma later.
Read also:why the first person you should love is "you"
1. CRYING YOURSELF OUT IS ALLOWED
If you think you strong enough to bottle up those feelings by holding your tears back,then its a sorry from me because you are not ready to just forget them.But when you cry and let it all out,you let fragments of the hurts,memories and the person all out.
Infact crying after a break up is a ticket of travelling to the "Get over" land because after you have spilled all those tears on your pillow or sofa,you will notice you are at ease with yourself at some point and in most cases no matter What you I'll never cry over him or her again.
It doesn't make you weak or less defensive,it only makes you strong because you know once you get it all out you tend to forget them sooner or later.
2. DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR EX WITH YOUR FRIENDS AFTER THE BREAK UP
you only bring back the memories of the time you and your ex had together,when you bad mouth them to your friends or constantly talk about your ex to your friend..
If you do this it means you still thinking of your ex and this will make you feel angry and used up.Instead why not have a good time with your friends by discussing on better issues that will be fun rather than waste it on your ex.
3. KEEP YOURSELF BUSY
Always try to keep yourself busy no matter what,learn some handy works,go for that job, indulging in these thing will help you shift your attention off your ex.And when you do this you get to meet new persons that can turn your life around for the good.
Remember you are getting over someone,not just some one but some one you once loved so try as much as possible to not find yourself alone doing nothing,because you could fall back into that cycle of thinking of our ex.
4. AVOID STALKING YOUR EX ON SOCIAL NETWORKS
you want to get over him/her and you still checking on their facebook ,twitter,instagram and other social media account of thiers Just to check how life Is for them without you in it.
Then tell me when you do this how do you think you can get over them? Your doing this will only make you find it hard to move on with your life because truth being told if you do his you are still wallowing in your past.
Instead why not just live your life,do not block them just yet, let them see how well you are doing without them.I know you asking how can i avoid stalking the when i still have them on my list? Well you can avoid stalking them while they are still on your list by taking your mind completely of them this is another way to revenge back without saying a word to them.
They will definitely stalk you too just to see if you will have some sad quote on breakups blah blah blah,but how do you think they will feel when he/she always sees a picture of you doing what you love doing best ora picture of you with loved ones.its gonna make them know they were not really important afterall and in the process,he/she will be the one to block you.ouch! This is just the sweetest revenge love.
5. TAKE YOURSELF ON A DATE
Go out,take a walk or if you have a puppy take your puppy for a walk and feel the cool breeze of the evening.make some special time for yourself,create a day when you will have enough time for just you but it should be on a free day it must not interfere with your normal activites,.
When you do this often it gives you the confidence that you came to this world alone so what's wrong living your life depending on yourself? there's absolutely nothing wrong there jor!
6. SEEK COUNSELLING FROM AN ELDERLY PERSON
If you want to have enough knowledge on your life,your relationship and breakups,Being counselled by an older person is sure worth the time,because they have come a long way in life and might have experienced lots worst than you have.
7. PAMPER "YOU"
what are the qualities you love about yourself?what are the things you are good at?what have you accomplish so far?
At times its very important you take a pause from life challenges and think of yourself,See how far you have gone in life and appreciate yourself for what you have accomplished so far and thank God for each day that passes by.
Read also:why the first person you should love is "you"
8. AVOID CONTACTiNG HIM/HER
Don't call or text them for any reason,this doesn't show you are immature.You want to get over them right ?so why calling or texting?
9. MEET NEW PEOPLE
When you meet new people ,you get to make new friends,go places get connected to persons/Job opportunities,you get to have knowledge of things you have little or No knowledge about and also you get to know there are persons out there who still appreciate you.
So you see,one person should never spoil your career.
10. REMOVE REMINDERS OF THEM
Its very important that after a breakup you don't just cleanse yourself, by getting over your ex,you also cleanse them off your room by removing any picture that has to do with them,delete their numbers from your phone,delete their pictures from your phone,delete everything that has to do with them,this will kill every reminder of them from your life and help you forget they even existed.
11. THE POWER OF MUSIC
To tell you the truth,music is a medicine that keeps the body and soul in check, it heals a wounded heart and it has the power to soften even the strongest of heart.
When you find yourself in this situation listen to music that would make you happy and not music's especially blues that can get you back down the memory lane of you and our ex.
12. HANG OUT WITH FRIENDS
Friends Are a great breakup pill.they heal your wounds and make you realise how strong you're when you want to be wanted and feel lively, your friends are a sure best option to helping you move on..
No comments:
Post a Comment